Whether you have been married for a couple months, a couple years or a couple decades, there are going to be times that you start to question if your relationship is stable or not. We all do it, even those of us out there who have been married for a very long time. It’s normal to wonder if your partner loves you just as much today as he did when he got down on one knee for you. Although it’s a sad thought, it’s a common one.
There’s no need to jump to conclusions, though. Although we think we are ‘at one’ with our partners, they are still completely separate people from us. As much as we’d like to believe we can read their minds, we simply don’t have the magic to do so.
That’s why it’s crucial to think about the signs that come along with a relationship in turmoil.
Just because he stopped doing the dishes as much or forgot to give you a kiss when you got home doesn’t always mean that he suddenly stop loving you.
There are certain things that you should keep an eye out for if you have suspicions that your husband is falling out of love with you.
So what are these certain things?
Check out these 15 different signs to be on the lookout for when trying to decide if your husband doesn’t love you anymore.
One of the most important things in a relationship is physical connection. Although emotional connectivity is extremely critical to maintain, it’s just as crucial to keep strong intimacy in your partnership. They say that with marriage comes the end of your sex life. That’s simply not true at all.
Happy marriages often have strong physical connectedness even until both people involved are old and gray. It’s a myth that the elderly don’t have intercourse. Even when they get into their later stages of life, happy couples tend to continue to do the dirty deed. As long as they don’t have health related issues preventing them from doing so, that is.
If your husband previously was intimate with you five times a week and suddenly it turns into a big whopping zero times weekly, then you might have cause for concern.
Disconnecting emotionally can lead to less intimacy and therefore is a bad sign when it comes to marriage.
2. He Communicates With You Less
Communication is an essential key in any relationship. You have made vows to be with one another for eternity, so giving up the conversation is a bad sign, especially in newlyweds. It’s more common to see long-term couples have fewer discussions. However, if he stops communicating with you 85% of the time, you can incorporate that to mean something isn’t going well between you.
He should be telling you about his day, his dreams, his feelings, etc.
Silence isn’t only uncomfortable, it’s often the first sign in a failing relationship. Not continuing to strengthen your bond with communication will inevitably lead it to weaken and eventually it will fade away.
3. He Doesn’t Make Time For You
Sure, he might be a busy guy. Between school/work and hanging with his family/friends, it might be hard to make a plan to spend quality time together. That’s understandable. But if he has suddenly wiped you off his schedule and refuses to put you back on it anytime soon, it’s a problem.
A wedded pair cannot maintain a healthy partnership if they don’t spend time together.
Of course you live together, but take it as a red flag if you’re only seeing him when he crawls into bed to fall asleep.
Have you noticed he’s suddenly making plans with the gang every other day? Does he have a lot of business dinners and engagements that you are, for some weird reason, not invited to? He may just be finding any excuse to avoid spending time with you.
However, if he is making an effort to have dinners with you or plan dates, you shouldn’t really worry. He may just be busy, but at least he’s still fitting in time to spend with you.
4. He Doesn’t Check In
Remember when you were first dating and he would call you on your lunch break to see how you are doing? That’s something that doesn’t usually stop, just because you got married. Your husband should be concerned with how you are doing throughout the day, just like you are concerned about him.
It’s absolutely healthy to have space, but too much space and too many vague conversations usually point to trouble.
Take it as a bad sign especially if you are gone out of state or overnight and he doesn’t check in with you at all.
5. He Stopped Missing You
When you are married, you tend to miss your spouse when they are gone. You want to spend as much time with them as possible, so not having them around makes it feel like something is missing.
It’s annoying to receive ‘I miss you’ texts every ten minutes, but one here and there is a nice surprise.
When you come home at the end of the day, your partner should tell you at some point that they missed you. Even if they don’t outright say it, they will show it in their affection towards you.
If your husband no longer shows any signs of missing you when you are gone, he may not love you as much as you thought.
6. He Won’t Open Up To You
Marriage is described as a sacred bond between two people. They connect on multiple levels. Your spouse should be the person you look to when you have something important to say. When someone stops opening up about personal things, it usually means that they have started guarded themselves. That is a terrible sign in any relationship, let alone a marriage.
7. He No Longer Does His Part
A marriage is like a well-oiled machine. You need all the parts cooperating together to run smoothly. However, if one part stops, the other one has to take the brunt of the excess work and usually stops working at some point.
Just like a part in a machine, a husband who stops doing his part risks the entire marriage falling apart. You are a team and should be doing things together. No one should be cleaning the house, running the errands or taking care of the kids by themselves if both partners are present.
If your husband stops trying to take care on his ends of things, it could mean that he simply lost interest in maintaining a life with you.
8. He Cheats
There’s no doubt that if he is cheating on you, he doesn’t truly love you anymore. You don’t cheat on someone that you love.
9. He Takes You For Granted
In a real marriage, both parties will never purposely take advantage of each other. Having your husband take you for granted is a terrible thought, but it is something he might do if he doesn’t love you anymore. He simply may not care about your feelings any longer. This might mean that he doesn’t mind using you to get things done or obtain money.
Take it as an even worse sign if he doesn’t seem to mind if these things put extra stress on you or upset you.
10. He Forgets Important Information
When you are in love with someone, you don’t typically forget the things that are important to them. You don’t seem to forget that they have a peanut allergy, because you no it can make them sick and you want them as healthy as possible.
You also won’t forget their birthday, because it is important to you to celebrate it with them.
But when you fall out of love with your spouse, you tend to stop giving a crap about them.
If your husband is falling out of love with you, he will forget anniversaries, birthdays and other important info.
11. He Doesn’t Surprise You
Have you noticed that the only time you get a gift is on a special occasion? And even then they aren’t very well thought out? That could definitely be a sign that your husband no longer has feelings for you. When you love someone you like to make them happy. That’s why you buy them their favorite candy when you stop to get gas or bring them flowers just because. Of course, you can’t expect to be spoiled, but it is a negative thing if the gifts and surprises stop completely.
12. He Is Annoyed By You
When you are head over heels for your lover, you will find them tolerable in most situations. Even when you wouldn’t tolerate someone you aren’t romantically involved with doing them. It’s not a good thing if you find that your spouse is suddenly annoyed by everything you do. From the way you talk to the way you cook dinner. Keep an eye out to see if this is happening more often, because it could mean that he doesn’t love you anymore.
13. He Stops Grooming Himself
Although being with someone for a long time can lead both parties to let go a little bit, there is a concern when one partner stops trying entirely. Even if you have been together for years, he should still try to keep himself cleanly for you. He should still wear his ‘nice’ shirt when you go out one on one. He will continue to try and impress you.
If you notice that he stops doing this, he may have disconnected from the relationship.
14. He Doesn’t Make Eye Contact
When things are nearing an end for one person, they lose interest in maintaining any sort of connection with their partner. If you start losing his eye contact, be wary.
15. He Isn’t Willing To Change
When something is bothering you, you should feel like you are able to tell your husband. The hope is that they will take what you said to heart, knowing that it is hurting you, and try to change. However, if your husband starts ignoring all your requests for change, he may not care about keeping the relationship going.
An extremely bad sign is if you request counseling for your marriage and he refuses to go.